Answer: That is a long time to have this problem. I hope you have tried the squeeze technique. This is when you feel like you're ready to ejaculate, you pull out of your wife and she squeezes hard the top of your penis. Then, you re-enter.

 

Some have just tried pulling out prior to ejaculation without the squeeze and built up the endurance. Some men are multi-orgasmic: The first one goes quick. You relax, keep your wife stimulated and, after a couple minutes, regain an erection. The second time is usually longer.

 

Staying connected to your wife during sex is important. Staying calm during the experience is critical. If all else fails, your doctor might have injections, pumps or other nifty ideas to help. The important thing for your wife is that she knows you're working on the problem. Couples who patiently work together can find creative solutions to challenges in the bedroom. 

 

By Doug Weiss, Ph.D., founder of Heart to Heart Counseling Center and author of The Seven Love Agreements, which explains the power of unity in marriage and outlines seven “love agreements” that will revitalize relationships (available at strangdirect.com). Contact him at drdougweiss.com, info@drdougweiss.com or 5080 Mark Dabling Blvd., Colorado Springs, CO 80918. Visit his Web site at intimatematters.com.