Top 10 Things That Are Most Pleasing Sexually to a Woman

Question: From what women tell you, what are the top 10 things I should try that seem to be most pleasing sexually to a woman? Don't give me the typical answers that we've all heard forever like, "Be nice to her all day long" or "Cuddle more." C'mon, I want specifics!

Answer: Like most guys, you're looking for the magic button on your wife to make her want you. Many guys make this mistake. They think women are like men--that a certain touch or look will get them sexually crazed.

Sorry, but women are absolutely aroused by emotional proximity, not physical proximity. Although a back rub might get you the results occasionally, don't be fooled. She probably already wanted to have sex with you; she just wanted to get a back rub first.

Working your way into her heart is the shortest path to the bedroom. Here's a real top 10 list:

1. Put the kids to bed.

2. Do the laundry.

3. Say kind words.

4. Skip TV for a couple days.

5. Don't finish her sentences.

6. Do at least two "honey dos."

7. Share a couple of feelings you are having with her (other than "aroused").

8. Give her a couple compliments or appreciations early in the day, not right before sex.

9. Don't grope her, but hold her hand.

10. Look her in the eyes every time she is talking to you, and don't walk away in the middle of her sentence.

By Doug Weiss, Ph.D., founder of Heart to Heart Counseling Center and author of The Seven Love Agreements, which explains the power of unity in marriage and outlines seven “love agreements” that will revitalize relationships (available at strangdirect.com). Contact him at drdougweiss.com, info@drdougweiss.com or 5080 Mark Dabling Blvd., Colorado Springs, CO 80918. Visit his Web site at intimatematters.com.