Question: Do you think foreplay is wrong?

 

Answer: Absolutely not. Foreplay is what makes sex fun! If you have played any sport in your masculine life, you know about the warm-up phase. Your coach would have you stretch, pull and twist to get you ready to play.

 

Sex is more than a sport and foreplay is more than just groping at your spouse. Remember that the rest of her body is foreplay, too. Go for her hair, back and feet before you move on.

 

Remember that sex is also three-dimensional. Have your spiritual foreplay intact. Make sure you have been sharing your heart and not just managing communication with your wife. Make sure appreciations for the many things she does as well are flowing from your lips.

 

Also, consider that the woman you want to engage with is a global thinker; make sure you have kept your word or have done your assignments (honey do's). Yes, a random act of kindness (laundry and dishes) is also foreplay. So foreplay of all types is really good.

 

By Doug Weiss, Ph.D., founder of Heart to Heart Counseling Center and author of The 7 Love Agreements, which explains the power of unity in marriage and outlines seven “love agreements” that will revitalize relationships (available at strangdirect.com). Contact him at drdougweiss.com, info@drdougweiss.com or 5080 Mark Dabling Blvd., Colorado Springs, CO 80918. Visit his Web site at intimatematters.com.